Don’t Be Be Frightened Of Your Emotion’s

 Don’t Be Paralyzed By Your Emotions By Lori English

Become a master at regulating your Emotions one of the most significant skill sets that you can learn. 

 If you experience emotions then you know it takes a lot to regulate them in the correct areas of your life. Regulating emotions can be tricky if you are not aware of the triggers. Become aware and learn the red flags that are waving.

Being triggered by an emotional response can lead you to several unwanted negative situations in your relationships, job, and family, however, there are many tips and tricks to teach you emotional management. 



Awareness is the key to ” know”  what you are feeling. If you are aware of the emotion whether it be anger, jealousy,  or you feel insecure.

Emotions are usually not static and can change frequently throughout your life. They can change and fluctuate throughout the day according to situations and how you are feeling physically.


 Tip’s To Regulate Emotions.

  1.  Be aware of your emotions and how they affect your relationships, family, and your interactions. Have an understanding of your emotional responses to what triggers you.
  2. Have a plan to follow that allows you to have a plan B. A plan b to tell someone “I’m not comfortable or tell them you will get back to them when you have time.
  3. Allow yourself to have ppace to answer questions but do not answer a question or make a big decision if you are feeling rushed or uncertain. 
  4. Keep in mind what you are asking for or what needs that you are trying to get met. Have a goal focused plan which can help you when learning to express your emotions clear and concise.
  5. Don’t take on too much if you are not feeling up to it. Know your limitations and create boundaries that will stick.
  6. Be kind and gentle with yourself and be nice to yourself. Treat yourself with kindness and respect.


How Do You Communicate?

Having the right balance of listening and talking can help in regulating your emotions. Being able to communicate with others is significant in responding and being heard correctly. 


Emotions-Girl On the Tracks.

If you having a conversation with someone who is triggering your emotions negatively,  and  become upset there are ways  for you to take a step back. Reactivity is usually a response from past issue that happened a long time ago and was not processed correctly. 

If your best friend of ten years is talking to you about something which is triggering you or making you feel a little uncomfortable recognizing the emotion behind your emotion you feel is important so you do not react in a way that can damage or hurt your friendship. 

Ask yourself is this person really trying to hurt me or he/she trying to convey a message to help me? The importance of this question is because it can help yo see your friend most likely is trying to help you see something you need to be aware of.

If you react to an emotion and are not sure where it came from, stop and take a moment to step back.   You can say, ” I had a long day would you mind talking later after I lay down and relax? Being upfront and telling someone how you feel is better thank people pleasing and being angry later.

Express your needs and what you want this is how a relationship becomes healthy. By saying what you want you are being effective in your communication. Try to be clear and succinct in what you want and need with communication.  Communicating your emotions with your partner can make a significant difference on having your needs and your partners. 


Paul Ekman, Ph.D.in 1984, revealed express emotion through facial cues and how your emotions are connected to your physical body. Here is a PDF of his work and beginning of his journey. Th six major emotions that he developed were developed by him and Ekman revised his list with a lot more emotions. 


  1. Fear
  2. Surprise
  3. Joy
  4. Happiness
  5. Sadness
  6. LOve


Ekman also worked with Dali Lami To Create the http://atlasofemotions.org. The atlas of Emotions is used to help understand emotions and their meaning with a wonderful interactive tool to help guide you along.

Your emotions play a powerful role in the way you respond to others in your life, job, and family. Understanding your emotions a crucial to living and having healthy relationships.

Roles Of Emotions

Integral emotions are from a judgment in the past and can still be a part of how you are thinking today. If you have a facts or information from a time in your life when something negative happened to you it could carry into the present.   There are many emotional roles that are taken daily and they begin with a reaction.

The reaction you take is usually due to a circumstance or a thought in your head that you may have had a past trauma.

Imagine a big red Stop sign in your head that is letting you know to stop and walk away before you say something that you may regret it later. This can really help if your emotions are very stimulated and you are angry or triggered. 

Anger is a very powerful emotion that can really set off your mood and if not dealt with can cause many problems that you can regret later. 

The role of fear is another emotion that can stop you from achieving your goals if you let it . It can also let you lead a very shallow life, so if you have fear and anxiety be sure to seek the proper help.

There are a dozen of emotions such as happiness, sadness, hope, jealousy, anger, love, and pride. Be careful the way you react to someone if they are triggering you feel that when you are talking to them you start to realize you are being triggered.    

Calm Down”.” Pull Yourself Together”, and even ” Stop Crying,” These messages were imprinted in our mind and as adults, we still hear them.  By hearing these statements over and over can play a part into our brains and how we connect with others today.

Emotions Processed

Emotions are different for everyone and can be daunting if you are not aware of how to regulate them. Being able to regulate your emotions in time of anger, sadness, and anxiety is a skill that can be learned.

Emotions are especially crucial in our relationships, employment, and being a human being we all have them. Knowing how to recognize your emotions is part of the journey that you are on. By allowing yourself to feel your emotions in conversations and expressing your true self becomes easier as you practice. 

Living in a vast world of people and using your voice is your outlet to expression and communicating effectively to have your needs met. Showing your emotions is not wrong , and if you were told that as a child or felt this way its not a true statement. Knowing how to show your emotions in a way that is appropriate for you takes time and skill learning.

Emotional regulation is a word that means you know how to recognize your emotions and can express them. There are many treatment modalities that work with emotional stability such as Dialectical Behavioral Therapy by Marsha Linhean. These treatments are very effective and many others which help in learning way to express emotions.

Finding a therapist if you are having any issues with your emotions and expressing is nothing to be ashamed of it takes courage to ask for help and there are many trained therapist who are willing to work with you. Believe and never give up on your journey to wellness. 


I am a Social Worker who works to help others improve their Anxiety And depression. I work with many people and use many techniques that are combined with practical tips to decrease anxiety and increase self -esteem.

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