Forgiveness Changes Life Entirely
By Lori English
Has someone offended you and what he/she said was so hurtful that you could not forgive this person? Most of us have been hurt in some way or another and there are ways to forgive others and still have your self-respect. Let me tell you about how forgiveness can benefit your health and help you let go of resentment.
What is Forgiveness?
Forgiveness is letting go of something that offended you in the past or the present. It could be someone you trusted lied to you
When forgiveness comes into mind what do You think of? Are you thinking of letting someone off the hook or are you thinking that Forgiveness is a spiritual
Wait, Let me explain there is no feeling in the world like being betrayed or someone lied to you.
Most of us have been hurt in our lives in one way or another.
All of these hurts are so painful that you can’t bear the pain and you think.”
There are many benefits of forgiving someone that include your mental health.People that are able to forgive others by coming to a conclusion that it will benefit both sides. Also, forgiving others can be about letting go of your past to move on .
Forgiveness is a Process
There is an abundance of reasons why forgiving someone can be beneficial overall to you and one of the most important is your health . If you are holding a grudge against someone for a painful event that happened three years ago the body is still holding on to this event and may lead to physical illness.
What is The Next Step In Forgiveness?
To forgive someone for what caused you pain to hurt you is a very specific type of process. You are the one that is making the decision that it will benefit you and that person to let go of what was said or done to you.
You are the one that is making the decision that it will benefit you and that person to let go of what was said or done to you.
In some cases, forgiveness starts with forgiving yourself many people that are hurt tend to start are hard on themselves already. Let’s take a step back and examine this .
- Blame the other person entirely, and lashing out at another personal this is a defense mechanism which is used when another is hurt.
- Rationalizing the hurt or the pain, this is another way that some people may feel when they are hurt is another type of defense mechanisms.
- Continuing to hold a grudge which is the worst. A grudge can be held for two months to twenty years, the hurt that it can you is what matters.
Why is Forgiving someone Complicated?
It’s complicated because your feelings are hurt and trust for this person is not there anymore you have doubts. You have to really dig deep into yourself and think of how to forgive this person, and also not let them do the same again.
Sometimes the person that betrayed you is not ready to take responsibility for what their part is. In Sometimes it takes time to work threw the issues that you have with this person, but the main process if you are in therapy and you want to let go of anger and move on is to work through the pain. Be patient with the process and Be easy on yourself.
Health And Forgiveness
How health and forgiveness are integrated is very important to the body and the soul. If you are holding on to a grudge that happened when you were eighteen years old and now you are forty the body is being weighed down by this stress.
An article written by “Medical Daily “it explains the truth about how grudges can affect your health overall and keep you sick. The way that grudges make you sick is you hold on or fester it in your body and the anger can cause cardiovascular issues. Letting go of anger and resentment are so important to the body.
Forgiveness Benefits You
By forgiving others there are many benefits you and the way you feel overall. First ,there are many ways to have your needs met a need.
Some people can forgive at the drop of the dime and others need time and space to think it over. There are many ways to forgive someone by telling them isn’t always necessary, however if you are recovering from a traumatic incident as you are married for twenty years and your husband cheated on you.
Do you need time to process this type of hurt? Most people do and if you need a therapist or a spiritual leader to help you sort through these emotions ? What About You ?
How working through the pain can help you get to a place of Forgiveness. Being able to-forgive people is important for you and your overall health.
Having a plan to remember that being forgiving and trying to understand the other person. I am not saying that you have to agree with this person or even talk to them, but forgiving them can set you free from the chains of unhappiness.
Benefits Of Forgiving Others
Knowing that forgiveness is good for you doesn’t make it easier to put into practice. It is hard to forgive when you have been done wrong or betrayed. You have the decision to make that affects your life and do you want to have peace and move on in a healthier way or do you want to stay stuck angry and miserable? These are questions that only you can answer and this is why I give you the option to make up your own mind. Forgiveness is powerful and of course my suggestion is for you to go for it.